Alright, lesson two about sex! And once again, you’re under no obligation to be dressed for this course, unless you’re at work – then is your choice. Sex is an important aspect of most every marriage. Your sexuality plays a major role in life. It influences how you dress, act, and interact with others around you. It’s everywhere.
Stand in line at your local grocery store and see if you can avoid seeing the word sex on a magazine cover. You’ll likely see it several times.
Talking about sex however, is possibly one of the more difficult conversations in life. Did you realize that for many people, it’s easier to talk about sex with friends than it is with your partner? Why is that?
Sex is an important aspect of most every marriage. Your sexuality plays a major role in life.
It’s tied to the anxiety these intimate subjects and acts create.
Do you remember how nervous you were during your first sexual encounter?
Filled with uncertainty, the exploration of the unknown, being vulnerable with someone else, sharing new parts of yourself with another person.
After a while, the nervousness subsides, confidence increases, but routine takes over. If you’re honest, you probably have a set amount of sex routines.
It’s always Sunday afternoon, must be in the dark, they do me then I do them.
I’m sure there are times when the routine is altered and the playbook is thrown out the window, but it’s likely that the new plays designed will simply replace some of the older ones.
There is nothing wrong with playbook sex, especially when both of you enjoy it. But what happens when one of you wants to alter the plays a bit?
It’s usually hard to bring up intimate subjects with those you care about. There’s a lot of risk involved with these conversations.
Just because the topic is intimate and the person is someone you love, don’t back down from bringing up the things that are important to you.
When it comes to talking with your spouse about sex, here’s a few things to keep in mind.
Timing is key. It’s not a good idea to bring up the subject of sex while having sex (this is different than a follow the connection talking which enhances the experience). If you want to discuss some unresolved aspect of your sexual relationship or a disappointment or frustration, during sex is not a good time for the discussion. Both of you will likely be less open and objective about the conversation. It’s also not a good idea to bring up touchy subjects at bedtime.
Be honest. If you are going to address this subject, be upfront and honest. This may seem like common sense but there are many people who resort to code words or only bring things up half-way.
Avoid placing blame and attacking. It’s easy to address this topic with statements like “Why do you always want to …” or “You always seem to initiate when I’m…” Anytime a person feels attacked they’ll respond defensively, it’s part of our survival nature. During personal discussions, take care of yourself. Talk about your experience, your thoughts, your feelings. While this will still impact your partner and may possibly hurt a bit, it increases the chances that you will be heard.
Ask questions. Seek to hear their side of things, be clear on their perspective. This is especially good advice if you have a spouse who’s reluctant to have this conversation.
Listen intently throughout the conversation. Slowing down to really listen can help keep the conversation calm, not less emotionally charge. But the less reactive you are, the more likely a good resolution will result.
Fill the conversation with respect. Avoid talking down to your spouse and assuming they know what you’re thinking. Also avoid interrupting them while they’re speaking.
As the conversation proceeds, you should also examine and discuss these sexual styles (everyone has these styles or moods at some point):
Spiritual – The union of the mind, body and soul during sexual encounters together. This connection comes from your deep appreciation of being with each other and is created by being more aware of the little moments in your life.
Lusty – The flirty and wicked looks at one another, the quickies, and the pleasure of having sex simply for the sex.
Tender – The gentle, romantic, affectionate touch that involves massages, light touches, and catering to one another.
Funny – Teasing and laughing with each other in bed. Having fun with one another.
Angry – This is making love even when you’re ticked off at each other (yes it is possible). This can be reparative and healing, provided the issues you’re angry about are still addressed.
Fantasy – This probably needs little explanation. It’s the style of collaboration between the two of you – to create a bit of daring and experimentation. Could be role play, new positions, or risky locations.
We are designed as sexual beings, but don’t forget that one of the most sexual parts of our design – is our mind.
If you’re ready to think differently about sex in your marriage and act in a way that will create demonstrative change in your relationship, register for the Art of Marriage Retreat. It’s a 3 -day retreat.
Too many couples come to Ana and i about the ISSUE of SEX, over the years we realized that 97% of everyone we talked to has it all wrong.
Lucky for you, we’ve grown to become frustrated with this and recently decided to create a course on adult sex education.
The best part is that you will be able to now get this course for FREE as a valuable subscriber of GLOBAL-Fairy-Tale.
Welcome to day one of the Sex and Intimacy course. Unlike other courses, this one has no attendance requirements, no homework (unless you’d like to spend some time in the lab, wink, wink), and you are under no obligation whatsoever to wear clothes while you are learning. Nice, huh?
Ok. Right. Let’s get on with the course already.
Before you dive into this course, I ask that you spend some time thinking through this question:
What does sex mean to me?
Before you dive into this post, I ask that you spend some time thinking through this question: What does sex mean to me?
Seriously, spend a bit of time with this question. In your answer you will discover the key to unlocking much more in this area of your life.
If you’d prefer to examine this idea on a broader scale, change the previous question to: What does my sexuality mean to me?
We are all sexual beings. Our sexuality is intimately linked with the rest of our life. It’s even linked to our spirituality. In fact, the two are intertwined.
That’s the way everything is in life. We may think we are compartmentalized beings, able to be the work you, the home you, the friend you, etc. but each area is interrelated.
As part of decluttering the house routine my wife and I have been on lately, we’ve come across some of the strangest things.
Old pictures of us or family members. Ribbons won in school. Or the metal Dukes of Hazard lunch pale I carried in elementary school.
To other people, these things would only be worth the cost of the item minus the depreciation. But to me, these things have deeper meanings. It’s reminders of playing in the creek on the way home from school. Of riding a bike so fast you thought you could fly.
It’s a lunch pale, but it’s more than a lunch pale.
We do this all the time. Things often have more meaning than the thing itself.
Sex is the same. It’s an act yes, but it’s often more than an act.
The key to uncovering more in sex rests in the meaning we give it. Or as Rob Bell in his book Sex God puts it: this is actually about that.
There’s always something deeper to the things in our life.
A couple keeps having these same arguments about trivial things. Yesterday it was how to park the car, before that it was the phone bill, before that it was about whose turn it was to take the dog out, and now it’s happening again.
They’re in the kitchen debating how to properly slice a tomato. They’ve been married for several years and would say it’s been great, but they’re at this point in the relationship where deeper issues like trust and commitment and kids and vulnerability are lingering in their minds and hearts, and underneath it all they both have this question: “If I get closer to my spouse will they leave me?”
But neither of them has voiced this, and both of them experienced their parents’ divorcing at a young age, so anytime tension or conflict comes up, things get confusing quickly and so they’re just at this moment realizing that this argument has nothing to do with how to slice a tomato.*
Or, the foreplay is progressing along fine and they both are enjoying the time together when she suddenly disengages and it has nothing to do with what’s going on in bed at the moment but he takes offense and storms off while she lays there feeling even more alone and guilty.
So what’s your meaning when it comes to sex? Connection. Release. Love. Power. Commitment. Procreation.
No one can define it for you. It must come from you.
There are times when meanings change. Sometimes sex is simply a release. Other times it’s a longing for closer connection. It doesn’t have to have the same meaning each time. But it helps to be aware of what you’re looking for.
To invite your lover into your world, be honest.
Want to go from good sex to great sex? Here’s the 3 step process.
Understand the meaning of sex for you. What are you looking for when you seek out your lover?
Speak up. Let your partner know what’s going on in your mind. Tell them what you’re looking for. Let them in on your experience during the encounter. Let them experience all of you. And while you’re at it, seek to experience all of them.
Take an anatomy class. Most people understand the basic idea when it comes to sex, at least intercourse. But there are many couples that seem to think that’s all sex is. Wrong! There are many ways to be sexual. Talk to your partner. Learn their anatomy. Teach them your anatomy. Learn their pleasure points. Yours. Would it surprise you to learn that an often overlooked G spot is the mind?
Sex can be extremely pleasurable. But this doesn’t often happen by chance. It’s more than getting naked and “doing it.” You have to be more present, more open, more alive.
If you had a serious medical condition and needed major surgery, would your doctor do the surgery “an hour-a-week” – for 23 weeks until it was done?
Of course not – and that’s why Global Fairy Tale’s one-of-a-kind, intensive Christian Marriage Counseling Retreat is so effective. It allows for couples needing urgent care to heal their relationship over a three-day, 26-hour marriage intensive weekend.
Once this “major surgery” has been accomplished, couples are able to achieve a thorough and speedier recovery in their marriage. Trying to heal a marriage in one-hour, weekly marriage counseling sessions is ineffective because in a critical marital condition, most marital issues cannot be resolved in a one-hour session.
In one-hour sessions, often by the time the couple gets to the root of an issue-time has run out. As a result, couples often end up opening old wounds and then leaving incomplete- discouraged and feeling more hopeless than before.
Yet, over 92% of couples who attend our distinctively Marriage Counseling Retreats and Seminars leave re-committed to their marriage including even those where there’s been infidelity, and/or separation.
Our marriage intensive retreats for marriages in crisis are like “marriage ICU.” Many couples whose relationships were literally on the brink share their testimonies of how they were headed for divorce court. But at that moment of crisis, our team at Global Fairy Tale was able to help them turn their marriage around and get on the path to healing and restoration.
The same goes for our single Retreats and Intensives. Our story is much better told by those who has benefited the most, as they share from the heart. Gina
The10th Anniversary Art of Marriage Retreat was a huge success!!
QUESTION: Do You Follow Footsteps Or Do You Follow Your Dreams?
In general, most people have been very positive and supportive of my Goals-&-Dreams, but there have been a few naysayers that have made me think for a second; “what am I doing?” But, only for a second.
Truth is I’m too stubborn to let that stop me. When I set my mind into doing something… I do it!
However, to help you a little in Response to the naysayers, gatekeepers, or any other dream Stealer’s that may want to keep you from Dreaming. Here are 7 the F my key Principles i use that might be of value to you.
1. The only “yes” you need to follow your dreams is yours.
2. You’ll regret it later in life, and if you’re delaying it, you’ll question yourself why didn’t you do it sooner.
3. Not following your dreams makes you feel unaccomplished. Eventually, this will stop you from dreaming altogether.
4. It will attract some attention, even from the naysayers and haters. You will feel strong as you prove the naysayers wrong. As Walter Bagehot said; “The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.”
5. People who follow their dreams are doers. Doers have more power to create, influence, and change their environment… and eventually the world.
6. Life feels more memorable, hence you feel and become more memorable.
7. Following your dreams might take unexpected turns, but those are the interesting and memorable challenges of living the dream.
Remember this: You Cannot Make Into Reality, That Which Was Never A Dream In The First Place.
Finally, You yes YOU were created to MANIFEST the Destiny YOU choose.
Just know that I Love you, and I believe in you and your dreams. Now go Out and start the Manifesting Process.
It’s hard to believe that it’s been 5 Years since Ana and I were homeless living our of our car.
So Without boring you by writing it all out and sharing all the gory details. Watch this short VIDEO where I share my story with a large group of friends and patriots. The Obom Bowen Nerium Story:
Well, Now that you’ve watched our story you understand why we’re so passionate about working with Nerium. We created what we called The Bullet Proof Success Formula which I’ll share with you below and you will clearly see how it’s helped us. My hope is that by you reading this, you take it as serious as we did and change your life.
This was a Philosophy we bought into and followed to the letter.
First we asked ourselves, do you (meaning us) have what it takes to get what you want?
You see, the winners in life know the rules of the game and have a plan. Whether you want to begin a new career, shed pounds or find the love of your life, consider these (10) characteristics which we’ve laid out here for you my FREE GIFT. These are common to people who succeed everyday and Ana and I would love to see you succeed also, many BLESSINGS.
1. Step one have a vision. (Without VISION people perish.)
The first thing you need to do, is know what you want, write it down and go after it.
Champions get what they want because they know what they want. They have a vision that keeps them motivated and efficiently on track. They see it, feel it, and experience it in their minds and hearts. What is success for you? You won’t get there without knowing what it feels and looks like.
2. Step Two Make a strategy. (Any goal without a planned strategy is certain to fail)
People who consistently win have a clear and thoughtful strategy. They know what they need to do and when they need to do it. They write it down so they stay on course and avoid any alternatives that does not get them closer to the finish line. To see our vision and how it drove us daily click here:
What Are you excited to get up too in the morning? People with a passion are, and they’re energized about what they are doing. You need to live and breathe what it is that you want, and be passionately invested in both the journey and the goal. It’s what makes you get up 8 times after falling down 7.
4. Live the truth.
People who consistently win have no room in their lives for denial, fantasy or fiction. They are self-critical rather than self-deluding, and they hold themselves to high but realistic standards. They deal with the truth, since they recognize that nothing else will make their vision obtainable. They take full responsibility for their actions. We never have nor will we ever blame anyone for any of our circumstances. The moment you blame, thats the moment you give up Accountability.
5. Be flexible.
Life is not a success-only journey. Even the best-laid plans sometimes must be altered and changed. Be open to input and consider any potentially viable alternative. Be willing to be wrong and be willing to start over. God knows Ana and I started over and over until we finally got it right 5 years later.
6. Take risks.
People who consistently win are willing to get out of their comfort zone and try new things. Be willing to plunge into the unknown if necessary, and leave behind the safe, Un-Challenging, and familiar existence in order to have more. I had taken our last amount of money meant to pay for the car we were living in to pay for the Nerium Business Opportunity. (Would you have done that?)
7. Create a strong Nucleus.
Surround yourself with a group of people who want you to succeed. They will move with you toward your goal. Choose and bond with people who have skills, talents and abilities that you do not. Winners give and receive by being part of other people’s nuclear groups. We seriously took the advice of a good friend who made Millions in this industry and listen to every word he and his mentors said for 2 years and oddly enough our problems went away with hard work.
8. Take action.
Do it! People who succeed don’t just sit and think about what they want to do. They take meaningful, purposeful, directional action consistently and persistently. Every step they take puts them toward the outcome they’re looking for. Everything I’ve said previously if we never took action we would still be homeless.
9. Set priorities.
People who are consistent winners manage their challenges in hierarchical fashion. They commit to managing their time in such a way that does not allow them to keep grinding along on priority number two or three if priority number one needs their attention. We learned this skill using the David Byrd next level achievement SYSTEM.
10. Take care of yourself.
People who consistently win are consciously committed to self-management. They are the most important resource they have in achieving their goals. They actively manage their mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. As i close this for you here let me share this last thought with you Everyone makes mistakes…even the most successful people out there. But, what achievers do better than others is recognize the patterns that are causing those mistakes and never repeat them again.
In short, they learn from pain—their own and the pain of others. A good thing to remember is this: pain is unavoidable, but repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I like to say, “we don’t need new ways to fail….the old ones are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is to observe what they are, and never go back to doing them again. –
So now here is where we were while in the gutter of life.
Today: I’m telling it like it is:
A Heavy heart No more, THIS IT A LITTLE LONG BUT TRUST ME WELL WORTH 15 MINUTES MORE TO READ)
October 31, 2009 when I departed the Gates of Camp Pendleton retiring as a Marine I was already homeless. After serving this great country. How that all happen was the compounded effect of many poor choices of my past, to which i take full responsibility for. I used to say i was not prepared for being homeless, but who is right?
What I want to share today, as I look back from my retirement day to now is this. In the almost 5 years I was homeless, struggling with Depression, Anxiety, Suicide, Chronic PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), Chronic head aches, and worst of all Chronic Back Pain which was due to the injuries I sustained in Iraq, Nothing prepared me or hurt worst than when I finally found the vehicle that would change it all, how most of my friends and some family members reacted to my new chosen profession in Net-Work-Marketing.
Over the past 5 years, I’ve learned More and earned more than I have in my entire time in the Military. It was not easy in the beginning and its not easy now still; but no one promised me a rose garden either, only what I was willing to work for.
But I remember as a young Marine that was not easy either. I do understand however that my friends and family were not educated on this industry. Recently I realized that millions have looked at Net-Work-Marketing entirely the wrong way over the course of the last 100 plus years of its existence. I realize 95% of my friends and family saw it as a scam, Pyramid Scheme, one of those things where you get in and the guy/girl at the top makes all the money.
This is no more than a perversion of the truth, or A Big Fat Lie. More than any other Job or business model around the world Net-Work-Marketing has produced more Millionaires to date. What I learned is only a few saw this as a profession and through trial and error steadied the journey to millions.
When I found that out, that was exactly why I choose this business model as my profession. The crazy thing is this your NET-WORTH (income) will always equal that of your NETWORK (people you know) its the same in a job or any business. If you have not yet fully understand this theory, here is the fastest way to test it out.
Take your 5 to 10 friends or family members you are closest with or talk too the most add all their incomes up and divide it by the number in the group and that will be about the total average income you Make. This was a statistic that floored me. I had read an article that said ” you are the combined average of the books you read and the people you associate with” at the time I did not read books on wealth or associated my self with wealthy people, but now I do!
Remember when I said “Nothing prepared me or hurt worst than when I finally found the vehicle that would change it all, how most of my friends and some family members reacted to my new chosen profession in Net-Work-Marketing”?
I would say it was partly my fault, because to most of them I never really said that I was homeless and this is what i’m doing to make money now to eat, or pay my car note so I can keep living out my car, or able to afford to have a real shower, or sleep in a warm bed, or even have a home cooked meal. You want to know what stooped me?
What stopped me was my pride because I was too embarrassed to tell that to my friends and family and it hurt every time I asked them to take a look at a video or invite them out to a life changing event. I remained in my comfort zone until I began to stretch and expand my network of friends to new people I met everyday and shared with some of my friends I was struggling and they decided to help.
Today i’m not homeless anymore, i’m accomplishing all my goals and dreams because of Net-Work-Marketing and making the decision to choose this as a profession over some get rich quick scheme, I got to fulfill one of my all time goals of becoming a published author and releasing my First book The Philosophy of Success which is quickly becoming a best seller. If you would like to pick up a copy get yours HERE:
Thanks to Nerium now I own my own home paid for, a Free car (2016 Lexus ES350 2nd One) from Nerium Intl and my bills are paid which makes me Debt Free and now focus on building wealth. looking at my life was like constantly living a bad dream and not able to wake up from it before. What I want more now thank anything else is to help all my friends especially the ones who said no in the beginning to Financial Freedom.
So if you were, or are one of my friends reading this and during the time of September 24th 2011 to now you said “NO” or are still thinking about it. “Don’t any-longer”, and here is why with all the love in my heart I mostly want to say this to you. Do not at all take this the wrong way, I have already achieved becoming Multi-Millionaire because of the Nerium Opportunity through my other COMPANIES . I’m going to continue to do this with or without you but I would love to do it with you and share in your journey while helping you grow and be wealthy also.
Here is what I do know with certainty 100% My children is worth the Sacrifice i’m making now for their future and your Family does too. I will not end up like most Americans today at age 65 Dead or Dead-broke, depending on close friends and relatives to help me out. Its a staggering fact for today’s economy if you don’t believe me take inventory of everyone you know 60 to 65 and see where their life is heading.
Their is absolutely nothing wrong with a Job, it is however a great place to start but when you finish its not where you want to be in today’s economy. Why that is? Because even if you are earning $200K a year and retire; that amount will be cut from $200k to what ever percentage you will receive for life, but as you get older and you cant mow the lawn, clean that big house, medical bills grow and health fails, kids move out or you have to pay for college, that income shrinks every single day as inflation goes up the same rate state and federal taxes increase and the US dollar looses its value because its no longer backed by goal. What will you do in 20 years when you’re 65 and realize this was the opportunity of a life time.
Net-Work-Marketing is the most attractive Business model simply because of one thing and One thing only. RESIDUAL INCOME. No Job security right now will ever give you that 20 years from now. What is residual income? that’s the income you make now and always on the work or business of the past. and the beauty of this model is the longer you work the more income you earn every single month.
I don’t know about most of you but when I found that out I said I was never working a JOB again regardless of the set income I can ever be paid. So if this is a a scam, Pyramid Scheme, one of those things where you get in and the guy/girl at the top makes all the money sign me up again. I truly hope this does not come off as me being cocky at all because its not my character nor my approach but; In my limited time having a few jobs and serving in the United States military which I believe still to this day is the greatest honor serving my country, no one will ever dictate again to me how much I am limited to earning.
To me that’s the biggest Scam, or Pyramid around. If you read this far i’d like to get to know you and work with you the best way to do that is click this link fill out the information tab and watch the video that changed it all for me 5 years ago.
*****Special note to my Friends***** : Honestly the reason to do This now besides the obvious that the company I’m Currently working with (Nerium Intl) has now set and broken every record in this 150 year old industry. By simply growing 3900% and grossing $100 million in sales its first full year in business and to date we have over 3+ Million Customers.
I’m sure you would agree that you want to live to at least age 65 Right? im also sure you might not want to be working at age 65 am I right? and if you are age 65 right now, you would rather be relaxing stress free some where tropical right now or just enjoying your time with kids, grand kids, or family am I right?
whatever Job you leave, retire from or income you receive from Social Security cannot replace an investment. its the same reason we Save, or invest in IRA’s 401k’s etc. Building a solid Net-Work-Marketing business is the only solid investment that will grow your income every day, every week and every year, with out fail.
I promise you 100% regardless of what anyone ever tells you. They are either scared or don’t know what it is they are talking about. If you truly would like to just learn more, honestly just call me 760-696-0914 or just inbox me today, don’t wait I want the best for all my friends.
The Marine Corps thought me everything I needed to know, how to live, how to survive, how to sustain and even how to thrive. I enlisted at age 17 what did I know about life? as I look back today and realize how many of my friends as I talk to them now that ended up homeless like I did, it still saddens me.
Many like me enlisted at an early age and never really got the chance to be independent first. However we all still learned the valuable skills necessary to make it when push comes to shove and that’s the bond all military members share how to survive and how to Thrive.
Where ever you are in life I want the very best of success for you. May God go with you and your path to your dreams. God bless you and thank you for taking the time to read this. its my goal that if you made it this far that my story impacted you in a way that you are able to change now and not go through what I did and that you can come out on top.
I also wrote this to tell anyone that maybe as broke as I was, that I used the money instead of paying for my car to start my business, my back was against the wall but I needed a serious change. The truth is if you are willing to make a change with the right mentor-ship you too can have any level of success you want. If you would like to gain massive success its available for you and I can and will help you with that. all my best to you and your future success, see you on the journey.
Last question 3 Questions.
Where were you in life 3 years ago?
Have you improved since then?
What’s the plan for your life the next 3 years?
I would like to invite you to come on board with me and change your life tremendously. But most importantly lets have fun doing it. Because of our massive Success as a company the worldwide expansion will happen without you, but let’s do it together.
Only Those closest too you, can ever talk you out of your greatness.
We’re all perfectly designed, with the same potential to arrive at greatness. Those who arrive there (Achieving their Greatness) simply paid attention to the reason they were put on this earth. (their WHY)
The only REASON others never achieve their Greatness is simple. They listen to the voices, the voices of care, the voices of reasons, the voices of fear; but more importantly they listen to the voices of Doubt.
DOUBT is the #1 cause of failure. Doubt is a state of mind in suspension between FAITH and (unbelief) is also known as FEAR. Fear it self is the anticipation of a future PAIN. (In the Marine Corp’s the saying goes “No Pain, No Gain”) this is a psychological barrier helping Marines immediately overcome FEAR!
In every situation it’s our Husbands, Wives, Mom’s, Dad’s, Brother’s, Sisters and those whom we hold close even mentor’s who are not capable of seeing YOUR vision (your WHY) which God has given you, are the ones holding you HOSTAGE to meritocracy.
However, they are only holding you there because you’ve allowed them to do so; by not exercising your own FAITH (faith is the knowing: it’s the substance of all things not yet seen) and by not exercising FAITH we give up accountability in our pursuit of greatness.
The truth is, if someone doesn’t believe in their own abilities to do something, they tell you that you can’t do it. If you believe that to the slightest creating DOUBT which leads to FEAR, then you have given up accountability for your own GREATNESS.
Typically 99% of the world then turn to Blaming the person or organisations for their misfortune. As you can see, they ALLOWED IT. Now you know the truth, my task to you if your reading this is simple. you understand the secret to greatness. Go forward today and share this post and be a blessing to someone else.
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My WHY is bringing Love to this WORLD, help me do so Today. My name is Obom Bowen and my passion is helping People Manifest their Destiny and experience their full potential through LOVE. To learn more go to ManifestOurDestiny.com
So we’re at the Gym this morning and an older gentleman approached me and said.
“Excuse me, I’ve been watching you two almost two years in here and you seem to always have an amazing smile on your wife’s face! How do you do it?”
Taken back, I smiled and said thank you!
It’s funny, you never know how much you’re being watched and what example/s you’re setting positively or negatively.
But when you commit to “being the change you wish to see in this world” only your actions will tell the story, so loudly that no one hear’s what your saying and only can tell from what you’re doing. Therefore SUCCESS in any endeavor is found in our DAILY ROUTINE.
After I said thank you, I said Humility! Humility is how I keep her happy and smiling. Puzzled at my answer with a slight head tilt, I read his body language from the confused look on his face, I then explained FIRST the Definition of HUMILITY:
HUMILITY: A modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness.
(more puzzled I explained that the most POWERFUL being, Jesus took the profession of a Carpenter, it didn’t mean that he didn’t know how powerful he was and that at anytime could have called on legion’s to wipe out the entire Roman Empire. He remained humbled)
I further explained that I always Make a Statement of Impact, such as You’re right, I’m wrong, in the event that my wife and I ever disagree on a subject. And then I follow up with a Surrendering Question, such as Food or Shoes?
I’ve never not know a time that I’ve said those words to my wife and it completely changed her state of being to a positive and see a warm smile.
The point is I EXPLAINED, whether I’m right or wrong I’m always able to get an open calm and sincere discussion with my wife after she’s eaten or feels Shoe satisfaction.
He laughed and said “that can get very expensive”, to which I replied ” no amount of money can pay for peace of mind and I love my peace of mind”
My new friend said “I didn’t think I would be that easy” and I said ” I know right, but it is “.
I’ve learned that everything can be simple or complicated, it is as #Aristotle said; “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit.”
I’ve made it my habit of building a happy life/wife. As the adage goes happy wife happy life.
It’s the beginning of a new year, and as such, many people have asked what they can do to make the changes they need to make to truly live the life they want to live.Why is it so hard for so many to set GOAL’S and not make it time and time again? In this VIDEO message I’m sharing the SINGLE most important component Missing that 98% of people setting GOAL’S, never even realize that they are doing.
This is for that one person that truly wants to make this year different and mentally learn this invaluable tip that will change everything for you.
Understanding what is about to shared with you can literally be the key to making your dreams come true. Compiled from many journal entries, this is the distilled wisdom from many years of observation and practice and it is presented with a sincere desire that it serve you as well as it has served others.
While there are many factors that determine success or failure, regardless of the endeavor, there seems to be one factor that makes all the difference. You may be thinking it’s your “why” but you would be mistaken. Many people have a “why” or many “whys” that rival the strength of Hercules but they still fail.
For some people it’s because their back is against the wall and they have no other choice. For some, it’s disgust and they refuse to live that way anymore. For some it’s because they have caught a vision of what’s possible that awakens a burning desire.
Whatever the “why” is, for some reason, people are compelled to move on it. Jim Rohn called it “inspiration or desperation” but people who succeed on a massive scale do it because some unseen force caused them to raise their standards and they simply will not settle for less.
This force, this mass, this energy doesn’t care how you use it. It has no mind of it’s own, only the mind you give it. It doesn’t care if you succeed or fail. It will fuel you and serve you in any way you choose to use it, so use it carefully. What is this force? Certainty!
Certainty makes ALL the difference. If you are certain that nothing you do will help then you will do nothing. You can have the greatest opportunity and/or the greatest products in the world presented at your feet but if you are certain that it will not work, or that it will not work for YOU, then you will do nothing with it.
People will buy your products just for the temporary relief (a band-aid) for the problem(s) and/or challenge(s) they are struggling with. Then, they put the product(s) on their shelf and never open them because they haven’t had that breakthrough yet to make them believe that what they got from you will actually solve their problem.
The breakthrough comes when people condition their mind (important!) every single day, at every opportune moment, by continually feeding it role models, stories and examples. Conditioning yourself gives you momentum. That momentum puts you in a peak mental state that makes your certainty so strong that you truly believe what you desire is inevitable. That’s when you follow through and take action.
Tony Robbins shared this and it is phenomenal. There is a 4 step process that creates that certainty you MUST have to be successful in any endeavor:
1) Potential – What is possible IF you use the products? What is possible IF you work the opportunity? This affects your
2) Actions – Taking massive action or little to no action affects your
3) Results – The results you get or do not get affects your
4) Beliefs – You believe it works or does not work which affects your Potential and this cycle, good or bad, continually repeats itself into an upward or downward spiral of success or failure.
These components all feed into each other to build your certainty: Certainty
You will succeed to the point where you can see positive results in advance. You build that belief by surrounding yourself with the people, places and things that push you in that direction. Your belief builds your certainty. It is a choice that you are 100% in control of and a choice that can change your life.
Potential, actions, beliefs and results changes people’s certainty. Good or bad. You decide. Condition yourself to the point where you see it and feel it to the point where you are are certain you will succeed and you will do it without even thinking about it.
Let me leave you with this. There is something inside every human being that will make it all click into place. If you’re certain you will get the results you want, nothing or no one can stand in your way.
If you want to be a leader who attracts quality people, the key is to become a person of quality yourself. Leadership is the ability to attract someone to the gifts, skills and opportunities you offer as an owner, as a manager, as a parent. Jim Rohn calls leadership the great challenge of life.
What’s important in leadership is refining your skills. All great leaders keep working on themselves until they become effective. Here’s how:
Learn to be strong but not impolite. It is an extra step you must take to become a powerful, capable leader with a wide range of reach. Some people mistake rudeness for strength. It’s not even a good substitute.
Learn to be kind but not weak.We must not mistake weakness for kindness. Kindness isn’t weak. Kindness is a certain type of strength. We must be kind enough to tell someone the truth. We must be kind enough and considerate enough to lay it on the line. We must be kind enough to tell it like it is and not deal in delusion.
Learn to be bold but not a bully.It takes boldness to win the day. To build your influence, you’ve got to walk in front of your group. You’ve got to be willing to take the first arrow, tackle the first problem, discover the first sign of trouble. Like the farmer, if you want any rewards at harvest time, you have got to be bold and face the weeds and the rain and the bugs straight on. You’ve got to seize the moment.
Learn to be humble but not timid.You can’t get to the high life by being timid. Some people mistake timidity for humility. But humility is a virtue; timidity is a disease. It’s an affliction. It can be cured, but it is a problem. Humility is almost a God-like word—a sense of awe, a sense of wonder, an awareness of the human soul and spirit, an understanding that there is something unique about the human drama versus the rest of life. Humility is a grasp of the distance between us and the stars, yet having the feeling that we’re part of the stars.
Learn to be proud but not arrogant. It takes pride to build your ambitions. It takes pride in your community. It takes pride in a cause, in accomplishment. But the key to becoming a good leader is to be proud without being arrogant. Do you know the worst kind of arrogance? Arrogance from ignorance. It’s intolerable. If someone is smart and arrogant, we can tolerate that. But if someone is ignorant and arrogant, that’s just too much to take.
Learn to develop humor without folly.In leadership, we learn that it’s OK to be witty but not silly; fun but not foolish.
Learn to deal in realities.Deal in truth. Save yourself the agony of delusion. Just accept life as it is—the whole drama of life. It’s fascinating.
Life is unique. Leadership is unique. The skills that work well for one leader may not work at all for another. However, the fundamental skills of leadership can be adopted to work well for just about everyone: at work, in the community and at home.
WHAT IF FINDING LOVE WAS WAY EASIER THAN YOU THOUGHT?
For many love is this esoteric thing that eludes them, but for others it seem so simple fun and they have it all the time. What if there was a way to know more about yourself and your spouse or someone you’re currently interested in romantically?
Well the first thing after you just rolled your eyes, after reading the above sentence LOL; you might say to me Obom PROVE it. Not to worry i’m getting to that and will prove it to you in just a minute. For now just follow along with me. What if i can prove to you scientifically more about you and more about your spouse or the person you are currently interested in romantically in 90 seconds or less.
You might say to me, Obom you are crazy, but my answer to you would be then why am i happily married in love with the woman of my dreams? and the answer is very simple, I DID MY RESEARCH in stead of boring you, i’m sharing the cliff notes and the scientific proof in the form of a website link to which i will list on the bottom of this post for you to crack you and your loved ones SECRET CODE absolutely FREE.
Why would i do that, Right? its simple really: once you figure out your code you can learn naturally why your’e the way you are with your partner and kids even friends and family and im good with that. Here’s the CATCH in case you’re wondering. Why am i giving you this AMAZING technology for Free. And the catch is: LISTEN CAREFULLY HERE: If you want to be the best, help yourself, know all there is to know about you those you care about and those you love, using a system to predict with precision how your children, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend or husband will operate and how you can benefit, help others benefit and know all the information or just simply be the best, then take full advantage of me teaching you how CLICK HERE, and there you have it. Learning it is FREE mastering it is Not and thats where i come in Simple.
Here is what you need to know, First of all i didn’t invent this it actually dates back to the great HIPPOCRATES AND THE 4 TEMPERAMENTS. The science of the four personality types dates back to 4th Century B.C., when Hippocrates, the Greek physician—known as the Father of Medicine—used it in his medical practice and called them The Four Temperaments.
Since then many behavioral studies experts and psychologists have studied and researched this theory and confirmed its validity. Today, millions of people have taken some form of a personality assessment, like DISC, MBTI, Color Codes, and so on. As popular as many of these programs have become, not one of them was focused on identifying the unique loving motives of a person, based on their type, which ultimately led to the creation of B.A.N.K.™
SO WHAT MAKES B.A.N.K.™ DIFFERENT?
B.A.N.K.™ is a revolutionary communication tool that uses reverse-engineered personality typing to help you “speak the language” of the other person. Humans respond to different linguistic cues and make decisions in different ways, according to the four B.A.N.K. CODES™ or personality types. When we are made aware of these differences and have the tools to adjust the way we speak to a person’s specific type, we get much more positive responses, 100% of the time, whether we are trying to close a business deal, get our dream job, or simply improve our relationship with your spouse or children.
“The B.A.N.K. Code Assessment™ is a quick, reliable, and valid measure of loving personality that can predict loving behaviors and increases your probability of closing the relationship GAP.”
DR. RYAN T. HOWELL, PHD SAN FRANCISCO STATE UNIVERSITY WHAT TO EXPECT :
Here are just a few things that you can expect from implementing this into your life: our
You will have an intimate understanding of how to communicate, negotiate and prevent more arguments with your loved ones and anyone else.
You will increase your emotional intelligence.
The communication between the team or family will improve.
You will accelerate in or with new relationships.
You will have a clearer focus on value… (what adds the most value and how to bring that about in your every day actions. )
There will be an increase in personal productivity and a focus on developing high performing teams.
You will learn how to Crack the personality code and take it to the LOVE BANK!
So now after all that, here is your FREE assessment on me: CLICK HERE Thanks for reading to the end now you know my secret. if you enjoyed the read and got value from cracking your code then share with others as well. after all you just got it for FREE. so help me pay it forward., by making this your good deed today.