“Excuse me, I’ve been watching you two almost two years in here and you seem to always have an amazing smile on your wife’s face! How do you do it?”
Taken back, I smiled and said thank you!
It’s funny, you never know how much you’re being watched and what example/s you’re setting positively or negatively.
But when you commit to “being the change you wish to see in this world” only your actions will tell the story, so loudly that no one hear’s what your saying and only can tell from what you’re doing. Therefore SUCCESS in any endeavor is found in our DAILY ROUTINE.
After I said thank you, I said Humility! Humility is how I keep her happy and smiling. Puzzled at my answer with a slight head tilt, I read his body language from the confused look on his face, I then explained FIRST the Definition of HUMILITY:
HUMILITY: A modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness.
(more puzzled I explained that the most POWERFUL being, Jesus took the profession of a Carpenter, it didn’t mean that he didn’t know how powerful he was and that at anytime could have called on legion’s to wipe out the entire Roman Empire. He remained humbled)
I further explained that I always Make a Statement of Impact, such as You’re right, I’m wrong, in the event that my wife and I ever disagree on a subject. And then I follow up with a Surrendering Question, such as Food or Shoes?
I’ve never not know a time that I’ve said those words to my wife and it completely changed her state of being to a positive and see a warm smile.
The point is I EXPLAINED, whether I’m right or wrong I’m always able to get an open calm and sincere discussion with my wife after she’s eaten or feels Shoe satisfaction.
He laughed and said “that can get very expensive”, to which I replied ” no amount of money can pay for peace of mind and I love my peace of mind”
My new friend said “I didn’t think I would be that easy” and I said ” I know right, but it is “.
I’ve learned that everything can be simple or complicated, it is as #Aristotle said; “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit.”
I’ve made it my habit of building a happy life/wife. As the adage goes happy wife happy life.